We all know that extra curricular activities can enhance a student’s education and make them a more well rounded person but when do we know as parents when the activities need to stop? Do we keep the student involved in every possible thing because we believe strongly in the fact that it will help them as people or do we use them as currency when other behaviors or grades seem to fall short of our expectations?
These are issues that a parent contract can help clear up. These contracts give you the chance to think out how you will handle situations like falling grades and behavioral problems as well as risky behaviors that you don’t want to promote.
Most parents are familiar with the idea that you use privileges as “currency” when you are disciplining children or teens. The idea is that most things in life are privileges and that the child or teen does not have a right to act like these privileges are expected or that they are simply entitled to them because they breathe. The question here is: what things in your family are privileges in your opinion? Are extra curricular activities privileges?
If you have a student who is failing math and can’t seem to bring the grade up or doesn’t seem to want to do you pull them out of tennis after school so that they can get extra tutoring or spend more time studying? Do you pull them out of something until the grades are brought back up and then let them continue with what they had going on?
The beauty of a parent contract is that you can sit down with your child or teen and discuss what is an appropriate response or consequence to any given situation that may arise. If you already have a written plan then it is easier to follow through because there is no question about what has been decided.